September 29, 2005

Oh So Emotional

{Cue the kid from Poltergeist}

We're Baaaack. And by "we" I mean that the Demystifying Divas and the Marvy Men's Club are back from our hiatus two month tour of Europe, Scandinavia and the Subcontinent.* Did you miss us?

Let's keep the tears of gratitude and thankfulness to a minimum, ok? We know you missed us. There's no need to get all blubbery about our return, ok. Turn off the faucets already. We get the point... And there, my devoted Cake Eater readers, is my exceedingly clever segue into today's topic: just how emotional should a man be?

And the answer is... {insert drumroll here} it depends, and I believe it's a regional thing.

I'm sure if you were a woman and lived in, say, California, you would be much more used to guys who were in touch with their sensitive selves. Because everyone knows that California is where it's considered de rigeur for men to go out and hug redwoods and weep for all the times their fathers spent slurping martinis instead of playing catch on the front lawn with Junior. I'm sure the women out in Californiaaaay are used to this sort of thing and I daresay they appreciate the honesty. After all, it's what they're accustomed to. They, most likely, grew up in California. They were probably there at the beginning of the "me" movement so, undoubtedly, redwood hugging is nothing new in their book. They probably wonder why all men don't come out and commune with the redwoods to get in better touch with their feelings. I would assume they probably budget for therapy and the resulting anti-depressant prescriptions the way I budget for the electric bill.

I, however, live in the Midwest. I was born and raised here. This is where we repress our emotions until we melt into vast puddles of stressed-out goo. Because that's what our ancestors did and if it was good enough for them, well, damnit, it's good enough for us! They came out here and tamed this land and there was nary a blubberer amongst those brave pioneers. Yet, I will admit, Midwestern Man (tm) has evolved and has come into the twenty-first century. He is no longer the emotional troglodyte his ancestors were. He has become familiar with the ways of the kleenex, but for the love of GOD, he will never actually let anyone know about this familiarity, ya dig? That's just the way he is.

So, I will admit, I want a man who knows himself, who is in tune with what's going on in his head and his heart, but I do not want someone who is going to blubber about the state of fifth chakra every other day. I've got better things to deal with, thank you very much. Like the cuticle on my left thumb that needs trimming before it erupts into a hangnail.

Now run along and see what the other delightful demystifing divas have to say on the matter. Then, if you're hankering for a dose of testosterone, you can flip the coin and see what The Wiz, Stiggy, Phin and The Foreign Minister have to say on the topic. Jamesy has also joined up with the Men's Club this week, go and read what he has to say, as well.

*Bonus points to whomever gets the quote.

Posted by Kathy at September 29, 2005 10:28 AM | TrackBack

Cab Calloway, from "The Blues Brothers".

Posted by: Russ from Winterset at September 29, 2005 10:38 AM

Thank you, Russ! I threw that up there the other day and no one said anything! I was beginning to wonder.

Posted by: Kathy at September 29, 2005 10:41 AM

damn. he beat me to it.

Posted by: caltechgirl at September 29, 2005 01:38 PM

I think it depends on where in CA. Vast swathes of this state are Red. All the Blues live in mostly the population centers on the coast. I can't speak for all CA women, but I'm not into all that 'sensitive' stuff.

Posted by: Ith at September 29, 2005 02:03 PM


It's been toooooo loooooong.

; )

Posted by: Christina at September 29, 2005 06:52 PM

It's been my experience that most women who want an emotional man want one until they find one.

Then they want a man's man.

Until they find one.

Then they want an emotional man.

Lather, rinse, repeat.

Posted by: Brian B at September 30, 2005 09:54 AM

There is a happy medium, Brian.

Great post, Kath.


Posted by: Margi at October 2, 2005 12:51 PM
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